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A few days ago, I gave a few minutes of thought to hashtag positioning and how it affects perception My lines of thought were focused on: 'people and their perception of others - a case study of myself.' I imagined some of the words that my bosses would describe me with and how somehow, most of them were linked to words like 'resolve', 'strong-will' etc. - I'm sure my current and previous bosses will be the first to nod at this 😄. You see, as a resolute/determined/strong-willed person, chances are you'd most likely be summoned to the other side of the table and probably asked 'why' more often than most of your colleagues - in some cases, you'd not make the list of top three favourite colleagues but guess what? You become top of mind when things go south on either side (colleagues or management - mostly the former).

Dear Daughter, It’s not easy in today’s society to truly feel beautiful. We as women are bombarded everywhere we turn by images and voices telling us we are imperfect creatures. Millions of Naira/Dollars/Pounds/Euros are made by various companies and advertisers telling us WE can achieve perfection via the purchase of some “beauty” product; eating or NOT eating certain foods, exercising with this piece of equipment or that one, camouflaging or uncovering certain body parts…Lord! It never ends. Unfortunately, for many women, we ‘buy’ into it, literally. We spend Naira after Naira on cosmetic products (that one by one pile up in our “make-up” drawer), exercise videos and exercise equipment by one ‘perfect’ physical specimen after another (who, because of our hard-earned money can now afford liposuction), chemical processes and extensions in our hair to achieve the most “flattering’ styles, we offer bodies up to the sacrificial alter of beauty to be plucked, waxed, shaved, exfoliated,...

A few years ago, someone expressed displeasure with the accent with which I speak ENGLISH LANGUAGE. He argues that I speak like I was born/bred in a developed English-speaking continent, whereas I have spent only a few days in some. First, I thought he was right to think that I was ''forming" until I started pronouncing "the" as Di. Then it became clearer. He's right to think the way he does. It's only clear that he isn't used to hearing a typical Nigerian speak the English Language with the right tenses and pronunciations. Not when teachers have replaced oral English classes with what's referred to as "phonics" (hopefully, I spelt that correctly). But here's the twist, something he perhaps failed to realise. I am an Igbo girl who was born and raised in the western part of Nigeria. Lots of kids like me can barely speak one local language fluently. Yet, I speak Yoruba with a Yoruba accent and get applauded. I speak Igbo - Anambra ...

A few years ago, I asked someone (JMCA) what his greatest fear was - one of the questions I ask to understand people and what drives them. He didn't spare two seconds before he responded (I wouldn't tell you what his response was but rest assured, it would stick for a very long time). Few minutes after I tried to inquire why he was afraid of what he had told me, something happened. In a still voice - one hoping to get the same response as his- he asked, "So what about you? What is your greatest fear."FAILURE! I answered. I could sense the confusion/amazement in his stare.  How can anyone ever be afraid to fail? With the answers to those questions not coming as fast as he wanted, he decided to ask; "Why are you afraid to fail, failure is the only thing that proves that we have tried..."  ........he went on and on and on. With a gentle tap on his arm (my way of telling him to at least let me explain),  I said... Failure gears me to work harder. I am n...

Today, I am pondering on the word FOCUS. I am curious about how actions and inactions inspired by one word can influence how a person's life turns out.  I am reflecting on the consequences of a lack of it and the potential risks of ignoring it completely.  I have learnt that in life, we become who we are from the goals we set, the actions we take to achieve them and the Grace we receive. There's no such thing as a short cut. If there was, wealthy people wouldn't have to send their kids to school. The only difference is that some are more 'privileged'' than others. Set your priorities right, and FOCUS my friends! Focus

Sometime in 2016, a recruiter was trying to poach me for a client (Tech. multinational) who needed a solution sales expert to manage a new - maybe not so new in the market - solution. After several conversations with her (the recruiter), she thought I was well-qualified for the job and scheduled a meeting with her client. It's the day of the chat - interview -, I walked into the office and, as usual, asked to see the person whose name I had been given (results from my research said that he was - still is - the country manager). I knew what he looked like - never met him before but seen pictures of him online. "He's not in," said the lady at the front desk with a smile. I gently took a seat at the reception - waiting & stylishly observing the environment, attitude and generally anything that gave me an idea of what their culture is - I don't mean to sound proud, but if the culture doesn't work for me, I'm sorry I won't 'WORK.' Several mi...

A friend of mine once said that his house is his kingdom. His spouse(queen) has to live and abide by the rules of that Kingdom. I'll tell you what I would have said to him (I couldn't say it at the time cos that would have just given rise to an argument that really wouldn't be beneficial to anyone). "Every queen (woman) has a set standard for a palace - ask Elizabeth. You better make sure that your king (PERSONALITY) meets with her standard before you set the rules. A kingdom that lacks a queen can never be more incomplete than it is”. I guess what I’m trying to say is: Separate yourself from any situation that requires you to give up any one of these: Who you are.  What you stand for.  The goals you aspire to achieve. A successful union takes the agreement of two people and their will to co-exist.  If either party loses that will at any time, then it becomes difficult to successfully agree on the simplest issues. To the BROTHERS I say..................... ...