The Queen is FREE and so is her King


A friend of mine once said that his house is his kingdom. His spouse(queen) has to live and abide by the rules of that Kingdom.

I'll tell you what I would have said to him (I couldn't say it at the time cos that would have just given rise to an argument that really wouldn't be beneficial to anyone).

"Every queen (woman) has a set standard for a palace - ask Elizabeth. You better make sure that your king (PERSONALITY) meets with her standard before you set the rules. A kingdom that lacks a queen can never be more incomplete than it is”.
I guess what I’m trying to say is:

Separate yourself from any situation that requires you to give up any one of these:
  1. Who you are. 
  2. What you stand for. 
  3. The goals you aspire to achieve.
A successful union takes the agreement of two people and their will to co-exist. 
If either party loses that will at any time, then it becomes difficult to successfully agree on the simplest issues.

To the BROTHERS I say..................... Every sister deserves to express themselves. Infact, everyone deserves the freedom of self expression - then and only then can you easily determine which "queen" is befitting for your kingdom.

To the Sisters.................. There is a kingdom for every queen. 
You really need to find yours or GROOM YOURSELF (Self development and skill enhancement) to be worthy of the desired kingdom. But don't you ever let anyone bend you AGAINST YOUR WILL.

YOU ARE NOT AN OKRO TREE. You just have to realise that first before you can make others realise it.

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